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Roberta Maria Atti: constellate

A FAMILY CONSTELLATION? WHAT IS THAT? ASTROLOGY?

No, nothing to do with it. "Family Constellation" refers to a genetic, physical and emotional structure of unique inter-relational patterns that bind, connect and inform members of the same family.

We are the unique result of the love of two people, our parents, and, at conception, our genetic structure is shaped by patterns belonging to both families of origin.

Sometimes, however, other people's destiny intersects with our predecessors' path and this must be taken into account, if we are to live an unburdened life.

If a human being is abandoned, rejected, betrayed, mistreated, abused, denied dignity, safety, food, shelter, love and care or in any way made to suffer within a family or a group of human beings, his or her suffering can continue to resonate from within that group, and/or its descendants, until the emotional pain is neutralized through awareness, acceptance and compassion.

By the same token, when someone's presence within a family is not acknowledged and honored, no matter how old, important, healthy, wealthy or sane a person is, an energetic disruption can occurs that may affect the whole family and/or precipitate into some form of illness in one of its members.

This kind of genetic resonance is called an "entanglement". It must be found, recognized and neutralized, or it can become a chronic health problem for one or more family members.

I call this kind of entanglement a "love debt", whereby we may inherit some unfinished emotional sequence from an ancestor we may have never met.

When we are ready to explore our "genetic resonance", when we decide it is time to "clean up" our family's morphogenetic field, there are some questions that can start us on our journey and facilitate our discovery of hidden patterns. Here are a few, to begin with:

1) how did my mother feel when I was conceived? how did my father feel?

2) hopeful? loving? doubtful? guilty?

3) was either one of them in love with someone else? was either one of them previously married, engaged, divorced?

4) was anyone opposed to their union? why?

5) was I wanted? by both?

6) did they hope I'd be born of a different gender?

7) was there someone who resented their union, perhaps an abandoned lover? or a previous spouse? or someone who felt betrayed by one of them and could see me as the outcome of that betrayal?

8) has someone in my family been abandoned, institutionalized, rejected, betrayed?

9) has a member emigrated to a different country?

10) was anyone adopted?

11) was anyone killed?

12) did anyone participate in a war or was anyone a victim of genocide?

These are just some of the questions we might want to ask, if we are to understand our own genetic resonance patterns.

Psychobiology reveals that, perhaps at the molecular level, we resonate with whatever our parents were experiencing physically, emotionally and mentally during our gestation. Not to mention how they were affected by the circumstances that surrounded them, both positive and negative

GENETIC RESONANCE

AN EXAMPLE OF HOW IT WORKS:

A young and beautiful woman may realize that she only falls in love, over and over again, with men who are married or engaged to someone else, whereby she is repeatedly taken advantage of and/or abandoned.

Through a Family Constellation she might realize that her father had to separate from a previous lover when her mother got pregnant with her.

What she might then discover is that, by choosing to be only in a certain kind of relationship, one where she is the "other woman", she shares and carries the feelings of the abandoned partner, thereby rectifying the injustice.

While it's easy to understand why the young woman would make such an unconscious choice, it is just as easy to see how her choice can cause enormous suffering, for her and other people. And yet, as long as her choices come from this unconscious (blind) kind of love, she will not be able to change the pattern, even with the best of intentions.

A Family Constellation however can provide her with the opportunity to liberate herself from this burden: most likely through expressing her empathy directly to the (representative of) her father's lover, thereby freeing herself from the compelling need to act it out.

We carry the truth of what happened in our family as a base memory (within our cellular structure). The story we are told, and believe, may or may not coincide with what our bodies know. The more discordant the two, the more uncomfortable we are likely to feel in our bodies and lives.

A Family Constellation, when properly facilitated, can lead to a permanent and effective resolution of these inherited conflicts.

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January 22, 2007